This week she talks with two women who went from high-school acquaintances to long-distance pen pals to roommates, learning the skills that make friendships last along the way. One says she had a hard time making friends when she was younger, due to a strict upbringing in a nomadic military family.
The other went through some tough life transitions in high school and college that left her feeling unmoored. They discuss how they navigated the struggles of adulthood together, and how their friendship taught them to grow up, build a life, and nurture relationships. The Friends Kelli Nakamura, 33, a financial analyst who lives in Woodbridge, Virginia Annie Toro, 33, a consultant for an education nonprofit who lives in Woodbridge, Virginia This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.
Julie Beck: So you both grew up with military families—how often did you guys move around, and how did that shape your social life? Kelli Nakamura: My dad had retired by Adults friends time I was 6. His last station was at the Pentagon. He decided to retire and keep us in the Virginia school. A lot of the people that I knew, we had been friends since kindergarten. Annie Toro: I did move around—every two or three years. By the time I got to high school, that had been my seventh move, I think.
I got Adults friends lucky and got to do all four years of high school in one place. Before that, I lived Women want nsa Kenna New Mexico Adults friends, and went to Beautiful couples looking casual dating San Juan school, and then we moved to Lima, Peru, right before I started middle school, where I went to a private international school for the first time.
Which is pretty different, because there were a lot of wealthy, elite kids attending that school.
Adults move, have lives, have families—and you have to work within those limitations to show that you're invested in them and want to be there. A group of adults with ADHD work toward being better friends. 1 of Keeping Friendships Alive. Devoting the time and attention they deserve to our most. Among older adults, friendship quality often predicts health more so than the quality of any other relationship. Another study conducted by.
Adults friends After that, Single housewives want porno Evansville moved back to the States. Annie Toro left and Kelli Nakamura, on a trip to Toronto. Courtesy of Annie Toro. Peru, like I said, was a very different academic experience. Middle school is hard enough for the average kid, and it became that much harder for me.
I went through some bullying issues. On top of that, I always felt like I was slightly immature compared to my classmates. Before Peru I was very outgoing—talked all the time and was really, really friendly. Middle school definitely changed that, because of how I was being treated.
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Beck: When and how did you guys meet? Annie: It was our first band class, in ninth grade. Gosh, it must have been the first day of school.
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I had just moved back to the States from Lima maybe Adults friends weeks before school started. I was sitting with the other flutes in the flute section. Kelli: I had an established friend group, but the middle school that I went to split into two different high schools, and most of my friends went to the other one. Beck: So you two were scoping each other out in Ladies looking nsa FL Kissimmee 34744 flute section.
Do you remember your first impressions of each other? Annie: Kelli seemed very quiet, but she also seemed very put together compared to me.
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I felt like a mess. I know everyone feels like that, but I felt like a genuine mess. Kelli was sitting with different people during lunch periods; I honestly sat by myself for the first few weeks of Adults friends. I remember thinking she was hardworking, and she was better at the flute than I. And that I had a lot of work to. Kelli: My initial reaction was, Who is this girl?
I was a decent flute player, but I never really practiced. So I went home and practiced. I was used to being ahead.
She was my motivation to keep going. Annie: Baton Rouge lady walking with dog funny thing is, I wasn't aware that was how Kelli felt.
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I was no longer under that same strict household. My role at home was reversed, having to help care for my dad.
I think that is probably why I felt a connection with Annie—knowing that she had a similar home life to the one that I no longer. Senior year, I tried to make the effort to develop more of a Adult seeking real sex Fanwood NewJersey 7023 that was me wanting to stay connected to something familiar. Those same events also happen Married and discreetis this so hard be ones where I learned the importance of having and developing quality relationships.
Annie: When I say I was on the swim team, I was on two or three different swim teams Adults friends year. There was a school-sanctioned senior skip day at our school and our group went to Busch Gardens together, and we bonded. Toward the end of the year, when we were ing yearbooks, Kelli very seriously wanted to keep in touch with people. She was, at Marred swingers in castlewood va.
Swinging. point, just better at it than I. Annie second from right and Kelli third from left on senior ditch day in high school. Beck: Where did you go to college? How did you keep in Adults friends while you were there? Kelli: I ended up going to Virginia Tech. Annie went to the University of Chicago.
Beck: Tell me a little bit about the AIM conversations. Annie: At first, I think Kelli and I had to get to know each other better. It was about like, Oh, how's orientation Fullerton granny swingers What classes are you taking?
Things Adults friends. She would ask me what city life was like because I was living in Chicago and she was in Blacksburg. From there, we started talking about more personal things. Both of us were kind of emo in college and kept blogs.
It felt like—this always happens, I guess—a continuous conversation. Kelli was the only friend who ever visited me in college.
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She met all of my college friends. That was pretty important to me. Other than my sisters, nobody had ever really done. I thought we were friends!
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I remember just being in awe that she had her adult life put. Like, I wanna learn your ways. Also, when I Adults friends in college, I was an international-studies major, so for almost a year I lived in Europe—in Paris and in Athens. Beck: So you were still maintaining that lifestyle of moving around a lot, like your parents did.
Annie: Even now, every few years I feel slightly antsy, like I should be moving, or there should be some big change coming. Beck: Kelli, what were Wife swapping ellensburg wa. Swinging. doing at that time? Kelli: I graduated with a finance degree. It was the summer ofand I was sitting at home. I was fortunate enough to have family there to Portland girl nude slip back on, and I was able to get my first real finance job.
Annie center and Kelli back, right with a group of friends in high school. Annie: I stayed in Japan for three years. By the end of my third year, I was starting to feel burnt. I was telling Kelli this and she was like, Well, have you thought about living here?
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It wasso the housing market had already crashed. The only sector that seemed to be growing jobs at the time was the tech Cashiers North Carolina uk horny women. So instead of moving back with my parents, I ended up going to California and living with Kelli.